I have always loved movies and books. It may be more accurate to say that I love stories. The intrigue, the excitement. And like most men I have always found myself drawn to stories of adventure, in which the dashing, athletically gifted hero beats the bad guys, saves the world and gets the girl. Unfortunately, in our real lives we often find ourselves fighting the Dad-Bod and our arch nemesis is some guy in accounting who keeps trying to undermine us at work. On the surface this life story of ours can be pretty boring and routine. The older and busier you get, the more likely that any daydreams about saving the world or being dashing and athletically gifted start to fade into the background. Beaten into retreat by the harsh realities of aging, injuries, responsibilities and apathy.
The truth however is not so bleak or unforgiving. You have far more life in you and far more ability to lead an extraordinary life than you realize. You can argue that the Rock, Jason Statham and all of the other super jacked studs out there have superior genetics, money and all day long to work out. While not arguing those points (and often not even true; the Rock routinely works 16 hour days and trains at 4am to get his workout in), the world is full of millions of men with enormous potential who never become the Rock or anything close to it. Why? It’s not due to a lack of opportunity, or education or support. Not to be mistaken, all of those things are vital elements of success. But what separates you from the life you want is seldom your ability. It is most often your will. Your mindset. Your drive. Your willingness to take action and relentlessly pursue a better life. Not because someone told you to, but because you want a life to be excited to live.
So what to do? Ironically, the first thing to do in an effort to move forward is to sit down. With pen and paper of course (or your laptop). Make sure that you are alone and don’t have any distractions. Do whatever you have to do to achieve this. At times I have driven to a safe parking lot and sat in my car to achieve some solitude. Now that you are alone, be honest with yourself. What do you really want? What parts of your life need to change? Once you know where you want to go, you need to make plans to get there. What do you need? What resources are available? Do you need help to get there?
Once you feel that you know exactly what you want, and have hashed out what you believe you need to get started, then GET STARTED! Get a plan and take action!
What separates the successful from the average is seldom looks, money or privilege. What makes a person successful is to understand what he wants and then to pursue that goal. Not with arrogance but with intensity. Not with selfishness but with commitment. Not haphazardly and inconsistently but with a plan.
Don’t make excuses for yourself! There are going to be times when it’s going to be hard. Just accept the fact that you’ll have to make time for yourself to exercise, and to prepare and eat your food. Going the extra mile. Doing more than what is expected of you in both your personal life and profession. Except for the occasional lucky sucker who wins the lottery at age 20 (just happened to a guy in Florida) you’re going to have to work hard and smart to lead the life you want. That’s ok though! You’ll be a stronger man for the journey you put yourself through. So to sum up;
- Find some alone time where you won’t be disturbed.
- Be honest with yourself and write down what you really want. Why you want it. Why you need to do it.
- Now write down what you can do to make that dream a reality. What do you have? What do you need? Do you need assistance? Do you have support?
- Get a plan and take Action!
- Be flexible, and keep making adjustments until you reach your goal.
All of us, regardless of our current circumstances have the ability to do far more than we realize and go further than we ever dreamed. Seeing others achieve their goals need not be frustrating. After all, if they can do it then it can be done. If it can be done then you can do it. Let obstacles, opinions and villains be damned! Get out there, take action and rewrite the story of your life. You’ll be a hero to all that know you.